The Dating Nerd is a shadowy figure whose whereabouts and identifying details remain unknown.
What we do know is that he is really, really good at dating. I started seeing this girl a few months back.
We met through friends and she actually asked me out afterwards via Facebook chat. We went on a few dates and really hit it off, and the sex is pretty good — not spectacular but better than I usually have. There's only one problem. OK, that's kind of mean.
Just, face-wise, she's not what I pictured myself ending up with, I guess. Am I being crazy shallow for having that as a deal-breaker, or ssandwich it valid?
First, let me say this: Pretty much all people are terrible in the exact same way. It's not a one-way street; most likely, someone has loved you in spite of the fact that they cringed every time they saw your weird-looking testicles.
Often, we fall into a weird habit of thinking of people as a collection of ingredients. Just how you want bacon, lettuce and tomato on a sandwich, you might want warmth, athleticism, and medium-large breasts in a partner. And there is nothing wrong with this.
The only really shameful thing is having bullshit relationships. I was dating this girl with a weird deformity in one eye. Based on the tone of this little anecdote, you can probably guess what happened.
Now, breaking up sanfwich her made me feel like a scumbag at first. But I was happier afterward, even though my friends told me I should stick with her on the grounds that she was a good woman, which she was.
If that was coming between us, and I couldn't fully shut it out, then she was going to be in a relationship with a guy who secretly couldn't get over her eye thing. And that's not fair to her, either, because there are tons loiking guys out there who could love her fully, for whom she'd be "The One," eye-thing or no.
Sometimes, all you need is a relationship with your left hand. So I suppose it all comes down to a simple question: Are you more into having someone cool to share your life with, or someone hot to share your bed with? Think you could use some dating help, too?